How it works

The conversation

You start by telling us, in your own words, what is going on. Text or voice, whichever feels easier. It is a short, private exchange where we try to understand what you are looking for and what matters to you in the person you eventually talk to.

We are not trying to diagnose you or reduce you to a checklist. We listen for the things that decide whether someone will feel like the right person to open up to: how you like to be heard, what you have tried before, the style of conversation that works for you, whether you need someone who shares a language, a background or an experience.

You lead the pace. If a question feels too much, say so and we will move on. If you want to stop and come back later, you can. There is no form to complete and no account to create.

Your shortlist

We take what you have shared and put together a small set of people we think could be a good fit. Not a directory, not a list of everyone available. A shortlist. Usually three to five.

The people on your shortlist are chosen for fit: approach, style, experience, availability, language. Nobody pays to rank higher, and we are not funded by the people we recommend. We think that is the only honest way to do this.

You will see their profile, their own words about how they work, what they specialise in and the kinds of people they tend to work well with. You can take as long as you like to read through them. There is no timer, and nothing gets decided for you.

Reaching out

When someone on your shortlist feels like they might be the right person, you reach out. That is the point where we ask for a small commitment (less than the price of a flat white, just once), and in return we connect you directly: a warm introduction, the details you need, and a gentle nudge to the person you are writing to that you are ready to start.

The fee is not there to hide anything behind a paywall. It is the moment you decide to do something for yourself, and a small signal that you are ready. It is a one-off, never a subscription, and you only ever pay it when you have found someone worth writing to. If nobody on your shortlist feels right, you pay nothing and you can come back to the conversation whenever you like.

After that, it is their conversation and yours. We step out of the way.

When you are ready, start the conversation and tell us what matters to you. There is no wrong way to begin.